People want to take care of themselves individually, and this is a truly great idea. However, in the process they forget they are also part of a couple.
Although you may have much you want to do and say in order to empower yourself, keep your individual work in the context of being part of a couple.
Being a couple means negotiating some things in order to benefit from the relationship. It means being aware you aren't perfect and neither is your partner. It means your work can benefit both of you and doesn't have to knock the relationship. If you want to fulfill all your needs no matter what, you can't be part of a relationship- it's that simple.
Empowerment is great, but give it a reality check.
Healthy boundaries mean knowing you have a right to what you think, do, say, believe. It also means knowing your actions can affect others.
Ask yourself if you are using healthy skills in an unhealthy way. Be honest and keep a eye on yourself and how your partner is reacting. Usually your spouse's reaction is more about them and their past, but sometimes it is about your behaviors. That's insight you can use in your own growth.
Even learning to speak up needs to be done with moderation and skill. If you were once a quiet withdrawn person, it is just as unhealthy to move to raging and screaming your truths. You want to speak in a healthy way.
Your courageous work is to use your personal growth to also foster healthy relationships.
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