Swearing aside (you can use the word "frustrating" if you'd rather,) it's a great concept because we all have AFGOs in our lives. In fact, life and relationships are filled with them and it is helpful to remind ourselves they are a time to grow.
Why? Because if you view it as a chance to grow and learn, you'll approach the experience in a much better frame of mind than if you view it as a catastrophe or unbearable imposition. You can gain from the AFGO rather than lose through it.
For example, if you have a friend who has broken your trust you can write them off and never talk to them again. You can claim that is your "right" and you can't trust them anymore. However, if you view it as a chance to improve and grow your relationship, you'll approach your friend and try to heal the breach. You work at understanding what went on and how to talk to someone about trust. You may still end up not being friends anymore, but you will have learned how you can cope with similar events in the future. On a more hopeful note, you may be able to remain friends with a deeper understanding of each other because you gave that person a chance to grow with you. That's the power of AFGO.
Your courageous work is to begin to view upsets and disconnects from your partner as AFGOs. Understand they are a challenge to understand, dig down, and communicate. Like raindrops grow flowers, AFGOs are gifts which grow you closer.
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