Liking what you are doing

Today as I was scanning my Twitter feed I noticed Loren (@WarmPiano) had the following two tweets:

• "Lots on my to-do lust today."
• then
• "OMG to-do LIST."

I laughed aloud.   (I even sent him a "LOL".)

However, it got me thinking.  Wouldn't it be nice if we were passionate about our relationship to-do lists? 

He was certainly passionate about painting.

Are you passionate about the things you do for and in your relationship?  Are you excited about spending time with your partner and on your relationship?  Do you truly enjoy doing the things that strengthen your relationship?  Do you look forward to doing the things your partner loves in you?

I think couples often lose sight of the passion and excitement of their relationship because they get caught in the thought that it is "work" and of course "work" isn't fun, right?  Wrong!  I love my work, I'm good at it, and I look forward to it.  The same is true of my relationship because I have tapped into my passion and excitement of being in that relationship!

One of my favorite painters, Bob Ross once said, "You do your best work if you do a job that makes you happy."  (Probably right after he painted a "happy little tree.")  I will link that quote to one by Confucius, "Do what you love to do and you will never work a day in your life."

What I'm getting at is this: if you focus on what you love about your relationship, the reason you are in it, the drive and passion you have for it, then you will find that your relationship to-do list is not longer such a chore.  In fact, you will do the work well and excitedly.

Here are a few ways to get back that feeling of passion about your relationship:

• Make a list of what excites you about your relationship (or what used to.)
• Think about all the things you enjoy or have enjoyed doing with your partner
• Identify (and express to your partner) the things you love about them
• Recognize the ways you contribute to the positive energy in the relationship- how do you feel best?
• Create a different list - a "to-do lust" - of things you crave doing for and in your relationship
• Look at the things that drain your passion for the relationship and determine if you can view them differently or eliminate them completely

Your courageous work is to change your to-do list to a to-do lust; focus on the things that motivate you and keep you passionate about your partner and the relationship.  Use that positive energy to help you do well the work involved in keeping your relationship rewarding. 

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