Your relationship isn't supposed to be a highlight reel!

If you ask me what my favorite sport to watch on television is I'd say "the highlight reels."  I really don't want to sit through a whole baseball game to see the 4 really great catches and 2 home runs- it leaves me cold.  Same with golf, tennis, football, and most sports except F1, superbike racing and hockey. 

I can do that with sports, but you can't do that with your relationship.  You can't say "I only want to be around in the exciting parts or interesting parts."  You can't say, "I think I'll go make some nachos and wait until I hear the crowd cheer so I can watch the replay." 

Relationships are about being around all the time - even in the boring times, the times where nothing is going on whatsoever, or the times when your team is losing and you feel like crap.  Those are parts of a relationship, too.  There is a reason the traditional wedding vows say "In good times and in bad." 

Believe it or not, the boring, unexciting and difficult times can connect you to your relationship.  Think about how the crowd gets behind a team when it's not doing well, or cheers when they are trying.  You can connect even in the times when you are bored out of your gourd, you just have to get behind your relationship.

Your courageous work is to pay attention to your relationship at all times- not just the exciting ones.  Be mindful and appreciative.  Be involved even in the boring moments and use them to become more connected and relational.

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