Seeing stars in your relationship.

Yesterday evening we lost electricity for a number of hours.  When I say we, I mean a large portion of the county I live in.  I was meeting with my marketing assistant, and we spent the time on my porch in the fading light talking and brainstorming without our computers or the internet.  Later I planned to go to the beach and look at the stars; unlike most electrically lit nights, I could actually see some from my balcony.

Just as I was saying, "I'm going out to see the stars," the lights came on.  I could hear cheering from all around, but I was bummed.  Now the stars would be blanked out by the multitude of lights along the boardwalk and from businesses. 

It made me think of the things in life that distract from or cover up the underlying beauty in relationships.  The lights keep me from really seeing and enjoying the star strewn sky.  What things in your life keep you from seeing and enjoying the beauty in your relationship?

• Do you focus on work, the kids, the house, your friends and forget to focus on your spouse/partner/relationship?
• Is your life so hectic you can't even enjoy the time you have with your spouse/partner?
• Do you get caught up in what isn't "perfect" and negate what is good between you?
• Do you listen to all the gurus, TV shows, internet ads, and magazine articles and neglect listening to the heart of your relationship?
• Do you do all the extraneous things and forget the basics (respect, self esteem, boundaries, and good communication)?
• Are you so caught up in providing for your family that you aren't a part of it?

From National Geographic

What is it in your life that keeps your from acknowledging the wonderful connection and center of your relationship?

Your courageous work is to refocus on your relationship and strip away the extraneous distractions which keep you from connecting.  Discover again what you love about your spouse and how you can really be intimate when all the chaff is blown away.  Make your life and relationship congruent.  Enjoy your relationship.

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Now I need to go find a dark place to look at the stars!