Instead of focusing on someone else, how they are (or aren't), what they do (or don't), what they say (or withhold,) take a long look at yourself. If you don't, then you can't be in a healthy relationship.
Let me define what makes a healthy relationship.
- A healthy relationship is made up of two free standing individuals who chose to be together and share.
What are the initial steps to help you be healthy?
- Take care of your physical and mental health. Physical health should be a no-brainer, but it rarely is; see your doctor and do what he/she says. In regards to mental health, if you have been diagnosed or have "issues", "hangups", mood swings, addictions, personality issues, past trauma, family problems or anything which strongly influences you - see a therapist and possibly a psychiatrist. It's good for you, and great for your relationship.
- Practice healthy self-esteem. Self worth is one of the first things I often teach to people because they don't get it (never learned it.) You can't have healthy relationship esteem, nor esteem your partner if you don't understand and live healthy self esteem
- Develop healthy boundaries. If you can't define who you are separate from others, then you aren't a freestanding individual. This means your sharing and protective boundaries.
- Get and use good communication skills. This means learn how to be a good listener as well as a good speaker. Don't forget communication is two way, always.
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