Not so. Why will drive you mad.
Searching for the answer or the reason for why things happen or why exactly you do certain things (or your spouse does) will drive you to distraction. It will also drive those around you away.
Why? :)
Well, firstly because most things have numerous causes. To look for the one reason or event that started the whole thing is impossible. Most often it is a long list of choices, events, thoughts, and behaviors that got you to a certain place. It is impractical to think you can untangle it all. If you can figure out a few major reasons, you are ahead of the game, but stop looking for the exact why or you'll go mad.
Another problem is you aren't living in the now, and so focused on the past you stop paying attention to how important it is to live and react in today. You make problems in the life you are living now which will stress you out even more and lead to a breakdown.
This unending search will also drive those around you away. People have only a certain level of patience, and they don't want to join you on a lifelong search for a pivotal millisecond of time; they have other things to do. They also will lose patience with your inability to learn from what you do know and move on.
You see, when you search for the why all the time, you don't move forward. You don't become wise in any way, you are stuck.
Your courageous work and this week's relationship resolution is to stop looking for the whys and live in the now. Be present, learn from what has happened, but don't get caught up in the past seeking reasons. Make healthy change in the now.
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