I don't have a problem with them riding, I take issue with their lack of manners. They clump in huge masses on back roads, pedal through red lights, and ignore stop signs. On small twisty country roads this is not only rude, but dangerous. I have lost all respect for cyclists (especially ones in tight racing outfits.)
This brings me to my relationship point: you can't expect someone else to do something if you aren't willing to do it yourself. For example the bikers want to be given the right of the road, but they aren't willing to stop at signs/lights or ride in single file. "We are traffic too," they cry. They want the rights without the responsibilities. They want to be respected without giving respect.
It's true in your relationship. If you want your partner or spouse to be respectful, but you aren't willing to be respectful yourself, how can you really ask for it?
We used to have a joke about respect when I was younger. Someone would say, "I don't get any respect," and the response would be "Give a little, get a little." Said jokingly, but it is oh so right.
It's true not just with respect, but any other thing you want from your spouse. If you want your spouse to share with you, but you withdraw and don't share yourself; how can you expect them to talk? If you want your partner to be responsible, but you are an irresponsible nag; do you think they'll step up?
Your courageous work and this week's relationship resolution is to give a little to get a little. If you want some action or attitude from your partner, make sure you are giving that same thing to them. And don't forget to ask as well.
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Hi Kim! This is a great post! :) As usual, you made some really great points, and I enjoyed the Foghorn Leghorn quotes too! :P
ReplyDeleteThank you!
ReplyDeleteI dislike pointing out the biking "faults" but they were a good example.
I too like the "Foggy" quotes in my other post!
-Kim