Lots of Little Lies Learned too Late Linger - Awesome Alliteration "L"

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It isn't pretty, is it?  We don't like to think about lies, but we all lie at one time or another (even to ourselves.)

Let me take a quick step back and talk about lies in general.  Why do people lie?  To protect themselves.  Every human does it from children to our elderly.  When you feel threatened, you lie.  However, this doesn't make it right, or healthy, or even helpful.  Lies kill intimate relationships.

Lots of Little Lies Learned too Late Linger.  What do you think? 

Let's look at the first part of the phrase "Lots of little lies."  It's about multitude even though they are small.  Most people want to minimize their lies.  "It was nothing" or "it was stupid" or "it wasn't a big deal."  However, what makes it important to your relationship is the sheer number or the habit you have fallen into.  It may even be a habit of not keeping your promises.   

If you are lying regularly, even about little things, then there is a problem.

The next part, "learned too late."  It means...
you are caught in a lie, and lie to cover it, then lie again, etc.  Ever do this?  It becomes exhausting to keep up with the lies.  I see this all the time in couples where there is an addiction or an affair.  As I wrote earlier, everyone lies, but it is the continuous nature of lying that damages relationships.  If my husband catches me in something and I automatically say "No, I didn't do that," the healthy thing is for me to go back to him and own up to it.

Being caught up in and attached to your lies makes you forget and disrespect your relationship.

Lastly, they "linger."  You see, if you have a habit of lying, even if you own up to them, your partner isn't going to trust you.  Lies will hurt your relationship for a long time to come.  You will have to do lots of really trustworthy actions and behaviors for a long time to win back that trust, and every time you lie you'll start over.

Lies don't just hurt your relationship once, they keep hurting it for a long time.

So, do you think lies linger?  Have you been bitten by them?  Do you lie? Ever think it's a good idea? When? How do you handle being lied to? Ever own up to a lie?  Let me know!

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