Cthulhu can't create caring connections.

Lovecraft's colossus of an evil realm, coming from the furthest space and bringing the deepest dread imaginable. That is Cthulhu.

It's no wonder I say it can't create anything like caring connections, but what does Cthulhu's inability have to do with us normal humans?

Allot.



You see, first Cthulhu puts its self above all other things.  When you put yourself above others, you disconnect from them.  You ride high in the clouds and don't see how your actions affect those around you.  You are stuck in the grandiose, the "better-than", the "only I matter".  You are denying the truth of intrinsic worth, and worse than that for relationships, you push people away and you don't even know it.

You could be like Cthulhu in another way- the feeling you engender in others.  The Lovecraftian monster brought only fear and dread.  You can do the same if you are a bully, try to control your partner, or have screaming fits.  When you aren't approachable, aren't comfortable, aren't safe, then others don't want to be around you.  They dread their time with you.  Definitely not caring connections.

Lastly, you could be grotesque in extremes of behaviors and expectations.  I doodled the above picture when I was thinking about this post.  Cthulhu is proposing right after destroying something.  That's what some people do- they act badly and then expect their partner to feel close and intimate.  It isn't going to happen.

So your courageous work is to confront in yourself that which may be monstrous.  Come down from the clouds and see those around you.  Acknowledge others matter, and matter to you.  Stop being a bully or out of control.  Be approachable and lovable.

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