"What are you thinking?"
"How can you say that?"
"Where do you get that idea from?"
"How many ways do I have to say this until you get it?"
Ever think like one of these?
"If they'd just listen, they'd see it my way."
"Why is she/he being so irrational?"
"This is just stupid. They don't get it."
"My way is the best, why can't he/she see that?"
If you had any of these statements cross your lips or thoughts wander through your mind, you were probably stuck in being right rather than being connected.
When you get stuck in your truth and refuse to see your partner has their own way of viewing things you are disconnected. Even if you have good intentions, you are stepping on your partner. You usually aren't listening because you are so focused on proving yourself right or proving your partner wrong.
Hint: if you catch yourself waiting for your partner to stop talking so you can jump in and make your point, you are stuck in being right.
This week's resolution, and your courageous work is to stop trying to prove yourself right, and have a discussion. A discussion is about give and take, respecting what the other person has to say even if you don't agree, and connecting.
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