Takes two to tango, but one can turn on the music!

Does your relationship seems boring, tired, worn out? Are you waiting for things to "liven up?" Do you secretly hope things will become more romantic/intimate/sensual? Are you waiting for something to happen? If you keep waiting, it won't.

It's up to you.

As an attendee in a workshop said, "It may take two to tango, but one can turn on the music!" It was a big insight for him, and he was dead right. You see, if you wait for your partner to start "doing the work" you're heading for disappointment.

If you look at yourself and start doing your own work, you'll change your life and relationships- usually for the better.

So, turn on the music:
*ask for things you'd like or like to do...
*do things you know your partner enjoys...
*share how you are feeling in a tactful caring way...
*make suggestions on how you'd like the relationship to be...
* follow through on those suggestions (no matter what your partner does or doesn't do)...
* find out what you can do to help your partner give you more of what you want...
* do things without expecting anything in return...
* encourage your partner to get involved, but don't force or push....

Today's courageous work, start the music and... Caminando- "walk" in tango terms- take the first steps... then Salida "exit" and also "beginning"- stop things you know don't work, and begin the changes you want to make. Invite your partner into the dance by opening up, talking, asking, and doing.

Dance. Put the rose in your teeth and make the first moves. Soon you'll be doing the Baldoso and coming to a breathless and warm Resolución.

But first, turn on the music.